This is an unusual blog title only because I very rarely refer to our boys as "twins". I typically call them our "little boys" because somewhere along the way I thought that by labeling them twins it would make Jack feel left out. Maybe that's silly, but that's what we call them and that's what has stuck.
Before having our own twins I had very little exposure to any twins. Sure, I grew up with twins in school and at church, but that hardly gave me any actual experience with twins. I remember when Jack was about seven months old we attended a kindermusik music class with a friend who had twins (they were one at the time). I remember her wrangling those two girls and even bringing a helper with her a few times, but I still never really understood how different her daily routine must have been from mine. Whew... ignorance was bliss then ;)
What's interesting is that I think every little girl and maybe even a few parents (I've had complete strangers tell me they wished they'd had twins!) dream of having twins. And, don't get me wrong - I agree that the idea of twins sounds super cute. I can assure you however the reality is extremely difficult.
There are moments, hours and sometimes even days when I am envious of the mom who has one baby on her hip. I wonder if she knows how easy she has it? I get frustrated that I can't even run a simple errand anymore. I get discouraged that we can't attend storytime, music class or any other toddler program together because I have a toddler AND twins. Absolutely nothing is easy when you have twins - I can assure you.
Anyhoo... I will and this rant by saying the following:
Everyone should be born a twin. Every hard day I've had, all the sleepless nights, all the frustration.... all of it vanishes when I look at our twins and know they've had one another from the very first moment of life. Their bond is unmatched. And I count it a special blessing to have been given them to raise.
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| bad picture of Colt, but look at them holding hands ;) |
Wonderful insights, Stace. As a momma of twins you can see how your two have bonded already!! I have been guilty in the past of THINKING twins would be so much fun - not! I've been exposed to enough of your daily life to know it is HARD, and so different from having a single child, but as you said, so very rewarding, and so special for your little boys to have each other-for life!! There is nothing like that bond, and no one but another twin really gets it! xxooxxoo ym
ReplyDeleteGreat pictures. I love it when you catch them holding hands. My daddy was a twin and the only picture I have of him and his brother together was when they were infants, and of course they were dressed alike. Such a treasure. Of course they were born in 1917, so pictures were rare.....be so glad that you can capture their sweet innocence and togetherness multiple times. Thanks again for this blog. I love catching up with them through your thoughtful posts, and I know that is one MORE thing to keep up with. Well done, Stacy.
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